Resources

General information

Collaborative Divorce: A Better Way Forward - A helpful booklet for anyone considering or going through divorce, offering clear guidance, checklists, and questions to support each step of the Collaborative Divorce process.

Collaborative Divorce Washington - Information and FAQs on the Collaborative Divorce process in Washington State.

King County General Family Law Resources (PDF) - Information for family law litigants who are not represented by attorneys provided by the Family Law Facilitator Program at King County Superior Court.

Washington Courts - Forms, instructions, and information about court procedures.

Washington Health Plan Finder - A trusted marketplace for health and dental insurance, helping Washington residents compare plans and find coverage.

Washington Law Help - Free legal information and self-help materials covering divorce, parenting plans, child support, and property division.

Free and low-cost support

King County Bar Association - Resources for free legal services, including Neighborhood Legal Clinics which offer free consults on just about any topic, and a lawyer referral service.

King County Collaborative Law Reduced Fee Program - Provides Collaborative Divorce services to income-qualifying residents throughout Washington State, not just King County. A team of professionals agrees to work at reduced rates based on your household income.

King County Court Facilitator - Get straightforward guidance on Family Court processes involving children and families, including divorce, parenting plans, child support, guardianship, and court orders.

King County Law Library - The King County Law Library has a variety of classes and self-help events, including videos and a “family law forms lab.”

Limited License Legal Technicians - A limited license legal technician, also known as a legal technician or LLLT, is licensed by the Washington Supreme Court to advise and assist people going through divorce, child custody, and other family law matters in Washington. A limited license legal technician can be an affordable alternative for having legal documents prepared.

Northwest Justice Project - Legal assistance for low-income individuals. Also provides county-specific information for programs throughout Washington State.

Pierce County Family Law Facilitator - The Pierce County Family Law Facilitator Office helps self‑represented individuals with forms, hearings, procedures, and referrals in Superior Court family law cases.

Snohomish County Court Facilitator- The Courthouse Facilitator program at the Snohomish County Superior Court Clerk’s Office supports Family Law and Adult Guardianship clients who are not represented by an attorney.

Washington Law Help - Free legal information and self-help materials covering divorce, parenting plans, child support, and property division.

Washington Law Help (child support) - Calculate, set and change child support.

Whatcom County Court Facilitator - Court Facilitators assist self‑represented individuals in Superior Court family law cases, helping identify required forms, review prepared documents, schedule hearings, explain procedures, and connect clients with additional resources.

Books for adults

Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce, by Lois Gold - A practical guide that helps readers approach divorce with resilience, offering tools to move forward and avoid common pitfalls.

BIFF for CoParent Communication, by Bill Eddy - A practical resource for divorcing and co‑parenting parents, introducing the BIFF method to reduce conflict and improve communication with difficult or hostile co‑parents.

Child Custody: Building Parenting Agreements That Work, by Mimi E. Lyster - A step‑by‑step guide to creating practical parenting plans, offering solutions for custody, visitation, finances, and children’s needs.

Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life, by Pauline H. Tesler and Peggy Thompson - A step‑by‑step guide to ending marriage through collaboration, helping couples avoid court, conserve resources, and create lasting financial and parenting plans.

The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids–Without Going to Court, by Ron Ousky, Stuart Webb - A clear guide to the Collaborative divorce process, showing couples how to avoid court, reduce conflict, and create child‑focused agreements that support lasting family stability.

The Co-Parenting Handbook​, by Karen Bonnell - A practical parenting guide for divorced or separated couples, offering tools to manage conflict, set boundaries, and support healthy relationships so children and co‑parents can thrive.

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, by Abigail Trafford - Offers compassionate guidance through the emotional stages of divorce, blending insight with hope for renewal.

Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation & Collaborative Divorce, by Katherine Stoner - A practical guide to mediation and collaborative divorce, showing how to avoid court battles, reduce conflict, and create fair agreements that put children first.

Don't Alienate the Kids!, by Bill Eddy - A resource for parents navigating high‑conflict divorce, offering strategies to protect children from alienation and build resilience through flexible thinking, emotional regulation, and healthier communication.

Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting, by Melinda Blau - A practical resource for divorced parents that offers communication strategies and attitudes to ease family transitions and avoid common pitfalls.

Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life, by Sam Margulies - A compassionate resource on divorce, highlighting mediation and negotiation as practical ways to reduce stress and reach fair agreements.

The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart, by Constance Ahrons - A practical guide showing how families can stay strong after divorce by creating supportive “binuclear” households and meeting children’s needs.

Healthy Divorce, by Craig Everett and Sandra Volgy Everett - An encouraging guide that explains the stages of divorce and offers practical advice on communication, co‑parenting, mediation, and building blended families.

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, by Bill Eddy - A resource for understanding high‑conflict personalities, offering insights into their blame‑driven disputes and practical strategies for managing or resolving conflicts.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes For Your Child, by Isolina Ricci - A comprehensive guide for divorcing parents, offering tools and advice to create stable, supportive homes and effective custody arrangements.

The Parenting Plan Workbook, by Karen Bonnell - A guide and workbook for divorcing parents that offers a child‑focused framework to build effective parenting plans, fostering successful co‑parenting and well‑adjusted children.

Question for Dad: A Very Cool Way to Communicate with Kids, by Dwight Twilley - A creative guide introducing the “Dad’s Test,” a fun question‑based method to strengthen parent‑child communication.

Spiritual Divorce: Divorce As a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life, by Debbie Ford - An empowering guide that reframes divorce as a spiritual wake‑up call, offering clear steps to transform pain into renewal and reclaim life.

Splitting, Second Edition, by Bill Eddy - An essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and/or antisocial personality disorder.

The Step-Family Handbook, by Karen Bonnell - Guidance for parents and partners on building healthy blended families—from early dating to living together.

Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents, by Vicki Lansky - A practical book that helps parents guide children through divorce, with advice on communication, co‑parenting, holidays, dating, and more.

When Things Fall Apart, by Pema Chödrön - A bestselling guide on overcoming life’s challenges, offering practical tools for personal growth, emotional resilience, and navigating difficult moments with greater clarity and ease.

The Wild Edge of Sorrow, by Francis Weller - A thoughtful resource that offers compassionate guidance for moving through grief, helping readers face loss with care, connection, and a deeper understanding of the emotions that shape healing.

Books for children

The Dinosaur’s Divorce, by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown - A sensitive, kid‑friendly guide that explains divorce, why it happens, and how children can cope with changes in family life, from living in two homes to meeting stepparents and stepsiblings.

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor - A supportive guide that helps teens understand why divorce happens, how it may change their lives, and how to handle difficult emotions, conversations, and expectations with both parents.

Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s And Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids, by Zoe Stern, Evan Stern, Ellen Sue Stern - Written by siblings who experienced their parents’ divorce, this practical book reassures kids by addressing feelings like guilt, anger, and fear, while offering advice on adjusting to new rules, blended families, and special occasions—with updates from Zoe and Evan as adults.

It’s Not The End of the World, by Judy Blume - A middle‑grade novel about Karen’s struggle to stop her parents’ divorce, capturing her hope, confusion, and realization that some relationships can’t be fixed.

It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicki Lansky - A simple story and parenting guide that helps children understand what divorce means, how family life may change, and that the divorce is not their fault.

Kids’ Divorce Workbook: A Practical Guide That Helps Kids Understand Divorce Happens to the Nicest Kids, by Michael S. Prokop - A fun, activity‑based workbook that helps kids build coping skills and confidence during divorce, with drawing, coloring, and matching exercises used by parents and counselors.

My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They’re Getting Divorced, by Lois V. Nightingale - An interactive workbook for ages 4–10 that helps children understand and express their feelings about separation and divorce through stories, prompts, and guided activities.

When Nothing Matters Anymore: A Survival Guide for Depressed Teens, by Bev Cobain - A clear, encouraging guide that helps teens recognize depression, understand its impact, and learn practical coping strategies and treatment options.